I deal with divorcing couples all the time. No-one wants to get divorced, but by the time they get to me, the relationship is typically over. Do not take your marriage or your relationship for granted. Here are some suggested thoughts on trying to make your spouse happy, which in turn should make for a better relationship and hopefully avoid the disastrous consequences that can be a result of a relationship turned bad.
Try taking a weekend trip somewhere that your spouse wants to go or visit. It does not have to be "Dutch Amish Country" but just get out of the house. Maybe even a local hotel with a swimming pool and sauna. Have the grandparents watch the kids or hire a babysitter to watch them overnight.
Take your spouse to an event that they would enjoy. Maybe try the Detroit Opera House for your wife or a Red Wings game for your husband. Go see a movie together and indulge with a big tub of popcorn. Then stay the night out somewhere.
Next time you disagree with your spouse, maybe let them have the final word. You are sometimes better off not saying everything that you think. The instant gratification of telling your spouse that they are an idiot often results in serious negative consequences that are just not worth it. We all act like idiots sometimes, your spouse will figure it out. You don't have to point out all of their errors or shortcomings.
Try to be as supportive as possible. Listen to what they tell you when they are complaining about something. You do not have to offer a solution, you just have to listen and act like you care (because you do of course care about them).
Say something nice to your spouse about them. We all have to deal with difficulties and people that are trying to cause problems for us, when we come home we as spouses should attempt to be there for our partners. A kind word here and there really helps and who doesn't like to hear nice things about themselves.\
Don't worry if you feel that you are the only one that is trying to please the other person. Hopefully they will come around after some persistent niceness and caring on your part. Even if you feel like you are doing all the accommodating of the other person's feelings, it may be worth it. Like my dad says, life is hard but the alternative is worse.
Good luck, be nice.
Try taking a weekend trip somewhere that your spouse wants to go or visit. It does not have to be "Dutch Amish Country" but just get out of the house. Maybe even a local hotel with a swimming pool and sauna. Have the grandparents watch the kids or hire a babysitter to watch them overnight.
Take your spouse to an event that they would enjoy. Maybe try the Detroit Opera House for your wife or a Red Wings game for your husband. Go see a movie together and indulge with a big tub of popcorn. Then stay the night out somewhere.
Next time you disagree with your spouse, maybe let them have the final word. You are sometimes better off not saying everything that you think. The instant gratification of telling your spouse that they are an idiot often results in serious negative consequences that are just not worth it. We all act like idiots sometimes, your spouse will figure it out. You don't have to point out all of their errors or shortcomings.
Try to be as supportive as possible. Listen to what they tell you when they are complaining about something. You do not have to offer a solution, you just have to listen and act like you care (because you do of course care about them).
Say something nice to your spouse about them. We all have to deal with difficulties and people that are trying to cause problems for us, when we come home we as spouses should attempt to be there for our partners. A kind word here and there really helps and who doesn't like to hear nice things about themselves.\
Don't worry if you feel that you are the only one that is trying to please the other person. Hopefully they will come around after some persistent niceness and caring on your part. Even if you feel like you are doing all the accommodating of the other person's feelings, it may be worth it. Like my dad says, life is hard but the alternative is worse.
Good luck, be nice.
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